My Side of the Story

   N.M. only took me off his IG once I posted the video of N.S. and I getting back together. He posted this long caption about how he was happy for me and was going to cherish the past four years, and everyone pitied him for it saying he's handling the breakup in a mature way. Then he went onto Twitter and began badmouthing me. Seeing what he was doing, I told him whatever anger he has needs to only be towards ME, and he is not to bring N.S. into any of this. If he ever brought up N.S.'s name, I was going to go after him. For almost seven months, my name was constantly coming out of his mouth, but even after this I hoped that he'd get through the pain.    I was happy to know he was finally  doing things I was trying to get him to do when we were together. It was sad that he along with many many others decided to burn their bridges with me especially because I had promised myself long ago that if N.S. ever got together again, I'd have his friends waiting there ...

   N.M. only started trying when I stopped going out of my way to make things work, and by then it was too late. While I was making something of myself, I attempted to help him grow with me, but he refused. He would consistently say he’d get a job only after college, then complain I was too busy with work and didn’t have enough time for him. After four full years of no respect for me, my family, my body, or my well-being, I knew I had carried it out long enough. If I wasn’t too scared to leave before, we would have only lasted less than a month. I was done being trapped and unhappy in a relationship I never wanted in the first place. I despised N.M. for YEARS because he manipulated and controlled every single second of my life. By May 2017, I told myself I was done with him...with the relationship. I needed to get out.   Two days after our four year anniversary, I had a Summer Fun Orientation to attend at Waipahu District Park. I was with my coworkers waiting for the do...